During intercourse, my wife and I will be going well and I will lo se my erection.
I am aroused and I love her, but I get inside my head and think too hard. At the beginning of our relationship, she would orgasm about five times to my one; it was always that I took too long.
I lose my erection during sex with my wife – am I overthinking it?
I sometimes feel as if I am not letting myself go. Is it a confidence thing? Sex is not a competition.
There is no scoreboard. If you approach love-making as though there is a goal to achieve — or even with the main intention of being good at it — you will fail to enjoy it fully. During lovemaking, try to make your principal aim simply giving and receiving pleasure.
Approach sex in the knowledge that it is common and normative to lose your erection from time to time — and that erectile failure is more likely to happen if you are nervous and goal-oriented.